Today is exactly 1 year since my little brother died. He was 32 and an alcoholic. He had always liked a drink, but the day he gave up was the day that his child died. It took him several years, but eventually he killed himself. We all had to watch, and none of us could help. No-one could make him understand it would never be his fault.
Today FSID has a new name. The Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths has changed to The Lullaby Trust. I think it's an excellent name. It speaks of peace and calm, which is what I wish to anyone who loses their child, at whatever age.
I'm linking this with Jennie Edspire and Ghostwriter Mummy's Lullaby Linky. I was a brand new blogger just getting to grips with Twitter when I saw Jennie's tweet at the top of my page and wrote this. What I've seen since has been a mighty community with a level of support and understanding that never ceases to amaze me, and a woman who has a strength and poise beyond human.
The number of babies who are lost to SIDs has reduced by around 65% since we became aware of ways to reduce the risks in 1988. Lets bring it down further.
sorry for your lost. hope he had found peace.
ReplyDeleteI really think he did Eileen. Thank you x
DeleteOh Jenny. I have no words. In an ideal world The Lullaby Trust wouldn't be needed but, while it is, I am so glad that they are there for those that do need them xxx.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely (and defiantly) x
DeleteSuch a sad day! May you find some comfort knowing he is at peace, reunited with his lost child.
ReplyDeleteThank you, we really do feel he has his peace now. His ashes were scattered under the same willow tree to be with his son, together x
DeleteOh Jenny, what your family must have been through xx
ReplyDeleteIt was heartbreaking watching him, the last year has been a lot easier on my Mum if I'm brutally honest. Thank you x
DeleteThis is so heartbreaking,all the hurt you have all been through x
ReplyDeleteThank you, the hopelessness of the situation was really hard. I do believe he's found his peace, although obviously I'd far rather that he'd have been able to find it with us :) x
DeleteI am so so sorry about your brother. Life is so cruel and so senseless. I hope he found his little boy. I hope and pray that I will find Baby Tilda one day x
ReplyDeleteIt really is, and I have no doubt you will find her, not for a very long time, but she'll be waiting x
DeleteI'm so sorry for your losses. I like that their ashes were scattered together x
ReplyDeleteThank you. It is nice. I took some flowers down a few weeks ago, and it felt really peaceful there, it's a very beautiful spot :) x
DeleteHow desperately sad. I'm so sorry you lost your brother, and I'm so sorry that he lost his son. No of it makes sense - and one of it ever will x
ReplyDeleteThank hon. It doesn't make sense and it isn't fair, but at least he has his peace now, and he could never find it with us :) xx
DeleteOh I am so sorry about your brother. So, so sorry. Thank you for sharing and for helping to raise awareness of The Lullaby Trust
ReplyDeletexxx
Thank you :)
DeleteI really do think this link up has advertised it very well - it's been a fantastic way to get the information out there x