I fed all 5 of my babies beyond a year, most of them beyond 18 months. A good friend of mine stopped feeding her first child at 12 months because of family pressure and it broke her heart. They both cried for days and nights. I may have shed a tear when a few of mine didn't want it any more, but it was short-lived (and twice I blamed my pregnancy hormones as I was already pregnant with the next one at the time).
I think with the first one, because it had been a nightmare initially I was adamant I'd get plenty of milk into him. I also wanted to better my Mother, who had fed only my younger brother, but had done so for 18 months.
Although no-one was ever openly hostile towards me, I was a bit coy sometimes, so I'd say 'I'm just settling him off', rather than publicly declare I was going to go to his bedroom and nurse my 18 month old. By the time I got to number 5 I generally didn't care at all with friends or strangers, but was a bit more unwilling to admit it with an aquaintance. It wasn't so much that I was bothered about their opinion, it was more that I didn't want to have to explain myself - but then I shouldn't have to.
The World Health Organisation advises Mothers to nurse until 2 years or beyond. That is the WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION. It's not the woman down the road, it's the authority for health within the whole United Nations. So why on Earth do we find it acceptable here to be pleased when anyone carries on after 6 weeks? Why do we look at people nursing a toddler with surprise? Why couldn't I feel comfortable to continue to nurse my child publicly any more once they were talking and walking?
Boy no.3 ~ Snow! ~ 18 months |
I stopped feeding each of my babies when they and I were ready. I listened to no-one who dared to say anything and I challenged them and cited the World Health Organisation advice. Each time a child of mine was ill I was delighted to catch the same cold or illness because I knew I'd be helping them recover. Each time I held them and they looked at my face and settled and went to sleep I felt pure love.
Boy no.4 ~ 17 months |
I'd like to think that when my children have their babies, breastfeeding will be something they don't think twice about, and they will have the confidence to nurse, and support their partners to have the confidence to nurse, for as long as is right for Mum and baby. I know I've normalised that in my household at least, and hopefully with a few friends and relatives who were around me at the time.
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Fab post Jen and so right!
ReplyDeleteThank you! :) x
DeleteIt get easy the more you do it. Well done to BF all 5 of them.
ReplyDeleteCheers hon. It really does get easier with practice :D
DeletePleased to know its a good thing me and my daughter both have a cold at the same time, hopefully it will go quick too!
ReplyDeleteHave been feeding 9 months so far.
Well done you! It'll be you writing these posts next year :p
Deletewell written :)
ReplyDeleteIve been pumping for nearly 6 months for my beautiful baby boy :)
DeleteWell that's fantastic hon, it's much harder work! Be proud of yourself, and thank you for the lovely comment :)
DeleteWith mine i felt like once I properly got started its just as easy to keep going and going well past a year but the next challenge will be weaning him off!! I dont think people should really consider 1 yr old any different than a newborn in feeding, they are still a baby, if they are still drinking a bottle I doubt anyone will really think twice about it!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! :D
DeleteI breastfed my daughter for 19 months, we're currently 18 months with no sing of stopping with my son.... we'll stop when we are both ready hopefully
ReplyDeleteI hope so, I think it's very likely having read a few of your comments... ;)
DeleteNice one hon :)
Great Post!
ReplyDeleteAt first I thought I'd only breastfeed my daughter for 6 months, but she's now 12 months old and I have no intention of stopping until we're both ready!
Thank you! I'm glad breastfeeding has exceeded your expectations :)
DeleteBeen breastfeeding for 4 months and want to carry on as long as we can
ReplyDeleteBest of luck - and well done :)
DeleteHopefully till self weaning stage
ReplyDeleteBest of luck - I was lucky that all of mine decided when they were ready and happy to stop. I hope you find that too :)
DeleteI have fed all six of mine until 18-22 months, baby seven due in nine weeks and we shall just wait and see
ReplyDeleteNice one! Best of luck with no.7! :)
DeleteBrilliant post, thank you.
ReplyDeleteI've been feeding my daughter for 22 months now and I would like to continue until she's ready to stop. Realistically I will have to restrict her feeds a bit when baby 2 is born in November as I have IGT.
Absolutely, make sure you look after yourself as well as you look after your babies! Best of luck with no.2 :)
DeleteAnd thank you :) x
DeleteSuch a brilliant post... Very beautifully written!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
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